From: Tony Belding Date: Mon Oct 15, 2001 11:04:59 AM US/Central To: "Henrik 'Snout' Isacsson" Subject: Re: A Serious Problem > [....] It was not my purpose to sow rancor among SPR's staff, and I am very sorry if I inadvertently did so. I did encourage them to reconsider and discuss the fairness of my ban, but I hoped they would do so in a civil way. I am certainly sorry if I triggered any personal disputes or damaged any friendships. > [....] I am not aware of any such disruptions. I have never intended to disrupt space, and I am sorry if I somehow caused disruptions -- but I can't apologize for anything more specific than that without knowing what I am supposed to have done wrong. > [....] I do not believe there is any valid reason for that. Arian has never harassed me, and I do not believe that I have ever harassed him. Nor have I broken the rules of SPR Space, nor disrupted its operation in any way that I'm aware of, nor have I bothered its staffers. I still do not believe that I should be banned from a very large portion of SPR simply because Arian does not like me. Nor do I feel that no-contact orders should be placed merely on request, without some evidence that harassment has taken place or that it's needed to prevent such harassment. Nor do I feel that a no-contact order should extend to preventing someone from speaking privately to his friends and voicing his opinions. Frankly, I think Arian should be the one who owns up to his wrongdoings. He falsely accused me of stealing his program code. He falsely accused me of harassing him. He used a spaceban to try and coerce me into changing my program, which I was not otherwise required to do under SPR's rules. All of these are serious violations of SPR's publicly posted rules. If those rules are taken seriously and enforced as written, and if wizards are expected to obey the rules just as players are, then it is Arian who should be permanently banned from SPR. I am not going to demand that Arian be banned from SPR. I am not even going to ask for an apology, much as I may feel that I am owed one. That appears to be impractical -- and anyhow, this happened a long time ago. However, I am also not willing to accept the blame for other people's misdeeds. I feel we should all be willing to put this dispute behind us. My suggestion is that we clean the slate on all sides, set aside the past accusations, and proceed forward using our actions and our behavior to reveal the contents of our character. > [....] I have no desire to interfere with Arian's business, or cause problems with him, or bother him. That is my promise, and I would like a chance to demonstrate that without the threat of a no-contact/no-discuss order hanging over my head. If such an order is placed on me, I promise that I will obey it -- but the existence of such an order would only make me feel that this matter still hasn't been fully put to rest as it should be. -- Tony Belding